Peer Pressure started much later when I was in school. The drama with girls and boys and who liked who, didn't start until middle school. But I distinctly remember my daughter, when she was in 4th grade, come home giving me the run down of the daily drama. I was shocked that they would be dealing with those issues and weren't even in the double digits in age.
Peer Pressure in today's society is very much real and in the live's of our children, whether they are being pressured, or pressuring someone else. This is a subject that all parents should have with their youth, or make sure they are getting sound advice from somewhere.
It's a know fact that teens who have friends that smoke and drink are more likely to do it as well. They will seek out people who do it to keep the product readily available when needed. Parents, we need to be in our kids business and put limits on friends. No, we can't hold their hand and watch their every move. We must educate ourselves to see the signs that your teen is into something. Never say "not my child".
A study done by The Kaiser Foundation, found that 23% of females feel pressured to have sex from their friends. 44% of teens would like more information on handling peer pressure about sex and what to do when they want to engage in sexual activity and 46% of parents have still not discussed sexual peer pressure with their kids. We have got to get to a place, parents, where we are willing to have these hard conversations.
Sure, no one wants to think about their teenager having sex. But, I would rather talk to her about it and prepare her on what to do when she feels pressured, then to talk about how to be a mother at 16 because she fell into the peer pressure. We must help our teen girls and empower them with knowledge that pressure from boys is not OK. And putting pressure on someone is not OK either, no matter the reason.
Tune in next month for our first teen panel that will dig deeper into the pressures of being a teen from the mouths of our teen girls.